Recently, I have taken into account certain relationships in my life and how much they affect and mean to me.
In secondary school there was this motto everyone wrote on their seats ‘good friends are hard to find, bad friends are easy to find. Keep the one you have’. The human continued existence is based on friendship. Friendship with one’s self, parents, siblings, cousins, relatives and friends. From the highest authority to the lowest bums living on the streets all of them have experienced in some way or the other one of these different kinds of friendships.
We take this friendship for granted because it is something that exists naturally in society and most of us never really have to actually go out into the world looking for a friend. Those of us who have had to live in a foreign country or in a new environment have learnt how important this is in life. My personal realization came when I relocated to a new country, within a sphere of an unknown existence. The feeling of loneliness is enough to drive a person to near madness. I believe success is born through being dependent on certain factors i.e. friendship.
As individuals, friends are one major source of survival. As children we depend on our parents and see them as our only friends. Life goes on to the next level and we now make friends with people of our own sex or opposite sex. A great man, Mark Twain, once said, "Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of joy you must have somebody to divide it with."
There is a freedom from both people to express their opinions to each other in order to strengthen the friendship. It does not matter whether the marriage or friendship is by choice or by force. Any form of friendship is based on the simple rules of honesty and trust. These are understood even before it starts. It is this that makes us human.
They do not want to know about it or they do not understand it enough. This is not how friendship works. It is a system like any other, and whether it is between spouses or parents and children or friends, the same rules will apply to everyone.
There is a freedom from both people to express their opinions to each other in order to strengthen the friendship. It does not matter whether the marriage or friendship is by choice or by force. Any form of friendship is based on the simple rules of honesty and trust. These are understood even before it starts. It is this that makes us human.
They do not want to know about it or they do not understand it enough. This is not how friendship works. It is a system like any other, and whether it is between spouses or parents and children or friends, the same rules will apply to everyone.
As I’ve grown older, I’ve learnt a lot about friendships. Friendships are not all about saying, it is about acting. Your acts show the type of friend you are… True friendships shouldn’t have an ending; it should forever be nurtured and cherished. J
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