Pains of the Past.

Mo was always falling ill and we really couldn’t say what was going wrong with her. Her father decided to take her to U.K. for an intensive check-up. We later found out Mo was SS. How can that be possible? Her dad is AA and I am AS. Well, Mo’s dad was curious because he is AA. We all did some blood test and DNA test…

16 years ago when I was in London shopping for my wedding, I saw someone that I had lost contacts with all this years. It was Robert my Ex-boyfriend, I was so elated to see him and he was also elated to see me. We chatted for a while and exchanged numbers. I told him I was shopping for my wedding and I hope he will come. As Robert was leaving I felt some part of me was leaving too, I couldn’t fathom what was happening but I could tell I wanted to go with Robert.

Robert was my first love or rather let me say the first guy I ever slept with, the guy I lost my priceless gift to. He was my one and only and I was also his one and only then. I met Robert when I was doing my registration in the university and he didn’t know how to do his registration.  So I helped him out and that was how we became friends. We became so close that we started sleeping at each other’s apartment, we go to school together and we go almost everywhere together.

The turning point in our relationship started when we found out that we were both AS, we decided to end the relationship because we didn’t want to have children that will be going through pain and all. It wasn’t easy at first but we later got use to the separation.

Before I left the bridal store where I saw Robert, I called him. I told him I wanted us to have a drink and chat since we have not seen for some years now. We later met at a bar and we drank and chat till we were drunk, we were so cheerful together. I told him how I met my fiancé and how he proposed. Robert told me he has not moved on since our split, ‘It is not easy finding a girl like you, sweetheart. No one can ever fill your space in my heart.’ That night was the best night of our lives; we later went to Robert’s hotel. He held my hand and told me ‘Sweetheart, I will always love you.’ Those words made me emotional; Robert is very romantic, the kind of guy every woman would want as a husband but circumstances did not allow it to happen for us. I told Rob, I will always love him too. We kissed and before we knew it, we were having sex. I didn’t feel guilty that I was cheating on my fiancé; all I wanted at that moment was to make Robert and myself happy.

After the hot sex, we laughed about it and promised we won’t see each other again and that we would not look for each other. As I was walking to my hotel, I felt guilty about what I just did. I said to myself ‘Don’t feel bad, you are not going to do it again. Be happy woman, you are getting married in 3days time. Everybody has that one little secret. At least you don’t know what your fiancé is doing at the moment. Be happy.’

I deleted Robert’s number and tried not to remember what just happened. I got married to my lovely husband; we had our honeymoon in a very beautiful country. All the memories of Robert has been wiped away, my husband was far better than Robert. He is very caring and romantic. We now have 3 lovely children. I named my last child Rob, because he reminded me so much of Robert.

I saw the other side of my husband after DNA result came out and we found out he was not the father of Mo. I have not cheated on him. How will he not be the father of Mo. I started doing calculations and it dawned on me that the fling I had with Robert before my wedding was the production of Mo. I couldn’t tell my husband what I just found out but I summoned the courage to tell him. He couldn’t believe it and he left the house that day. I could not tell anyone what had happened, I tried calling my husband but all his phones were off. He finally called and said he wanted a divorce. I begged him to please consider our children; he said all he wanted was a divorce.

After two weeks, I got a letter from my husband he had already filed for divorce. I called my mum and told her all that happened. She got me a lawyer to fight for the custody of my two children. I got the custody of my children and my marriage was declared dissolved because of one silly mistake of mine.

I just realized that my foolishness and selfishness have destroyed both my beautiful home and my marriage. I have learnt the hard way, that there's no point sticking to past relationships. We should avoid our Ex(s) at all cost and if in any way we come in contact, we should not stir up old memories or create the atmosphere. The PAST should not in any way affect our FUTURE which of course will become our TODAY.

What can I say?

I signed up to the latest social network everyone has been talking about, Twitter.  Twitter was not really my thing because you have to follow and follow before you can enjoy it and if people don’t follow you back you can’t send them DM (Direct Message), strange. Well, I got used to it and I can say I like it but you have to be jobless to enjoy it because you have to keep up to the pace of your TL (TimeLine).

During the weekend I get more time to tweet, this particular weekend a handle (profile name) caught my attention. The handle was weird but the avatar was eye-catching, I followed the pretty lady and asked her for a follow back, which she did. We started tweeting each other, later we migrated to DM and later we exchanged pins. I became a twi-addict because of her, at work I will run to the toilet to tweet or ping her and she will also do the same.

It sounded strange when I told my buddies that I had fallen in love with a girl I met on twitter but I knew what my heart wanted and it was her. My heart yearn for her each day as we chat and ping. We finally exchanged numbers after 4months of DM’s and pinging. I couldn’t wait to hear her voice; I was imagining different kind of voice that could sound like her… I finally called her and the first word she said made me strong (you know what I mean)’Hey, I have been waiting for your call’ she said… We chatted and chatted till we were tired.

I decided to take our friendship to another level; I travelled to meet her where she was staying. She was more beautiful in real life than her avatar or pictures I see. She took me to her friends and she spoke so well about me, no one will ever believe we were just meeting in real life for the first time. We went out for dinner. She later dropped me at the hotel. I wanted to have sex with her so bad but I have to respect myself and be a gentleman that I am.

The next day we went to meet her parents and she introduced me has her boyfriend. Wow, I was scared because I didn’t know how to tell them we met via twitter. They were so nice to me and asked about my parents, we all left on a beautiful note. She went to drop me at the hotel and this time she followed me to my room. She told me she loved and that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I told her I wanted the same too. We had the best sex of our lives, although she was a novice (virgin) but I made it worthwhile for her. The sex made me thinking,’ this is it; this is the woman I want to spend the rest of my life with. She looked so beautiful as I watch her sleep off in my arms’. I called my best friend and told him I have found my missing ribs, he didn’t believe me because he knew I was a joker but this time I was dead serious.

I went back home and couldn’t get her off my mind, her parents called to know if I landed safely and all. They treated me like their son and it even made me closer to her. I became less active on twitter and we continued our beautiful relationship.

Did I tell you she can cook? She is the best cook after my mother. When I took her home to meet my parents, she was so lively with them. She and my mom even had a cooking competition which she won. Mom and dad were so happy. She was so homely, neat and nice. After she went back home mom and dad asked me ‘What next?’ . They also couldn’t wait for me to marry her.

I finally took the bold step when we both travelled to Dubai, a place she always wanted to go, it was a great opportunity for me… I proposed to her on my bended kneels in the desert after we had a bumpy desert ride. She was just crying, tears of joy I hope. She said ‘Yes’. I kissed her hand and put the ring in her finger.

Months after the proposal, I am waiting at the altar for my beautiful soon-to-be-bride to walk down that aisle to me her soon-to-be-groom.  As she walked down that aisle ‘I was like wow!’ I am so sure the priest heard me, my best man smiled at me. She looked like an angel; she was soooooooo beautiful. The knot was tied and we walked down the aisle as a couple…

What can I say? All I can say is thank you God for helping find my missing ribs. People may say internet love doesn’t work but mine worked. I will always be grateful to my best friend that told me to sign up for twitter, without him I wouldn’t have found my sweetheart.  She is my all in all, we have our good and bad times but we learn each day. My wife is now preggie. I am so elated… Later tweeties, I will keep you posted whether it would be a boy or a girl or even twins or maybe triplet, what can I say?